Meet your host

Tammy Gustafson

Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC is a trauma-informed Licensed Professional Counselor, coach, and speaker with 15 years of experience. She is passionate about helping women pick up the broken pieces of their hearts after sexual betrayal, find their strength, navigate the counter-intuitive process of healing, and discover new ways to live with purpose, joy, and confidence. She is the developer of the Betrayal Healing Phases, which provides a framework for understanding and navigating the process of healing after betrayal.


Tammy is certified in EMDR and is the founder and CEO of Betrayal Healing, an international coaching organization dedicated to helping women heal from betrayal. She is also the founder and CEO of LiveFree Counseling, a counseling organization in Colorado specializing in trauma and PTSD.


Tammy is a skydiver and finds unique joy and clarity at 13,000 feet. She also enjoys roaming the streets of Paris and adventuring in the mountains with her husband and kids.


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Meet The Speakers

Andrea Rogers
What I Didn't Know: Reflections From 10 Years of Recovery

Andrea Rogers, BS, MS, CPC (Fully Alive Coaching, LLC) is a Board Certified Life Coach who is passionate about helping people reach their full potential in life. She has over 20 years of walking alongside others as they journey from hurting, to healing, to wholeness. Andrea is a Certified Partner Coach with APSATS, trained in using the MPTM (Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model) , a model that was so instrumental in her own healing from betrayal trauma. She is also a board member with APSATS, working to bring awareness to partner trauma.


When Andrea is not coaching, she is traveling, spending time with loved ones, or enjoying time with her four beautiful children.

Dr. Barbara Steffens
Institutional Betrayal: When Helpers Add to Our Hurt

Barbara Steffens, PhD, BCC, CCPS, CPC specializes in helping women recover from sexual /relational betrayal and is a sought-after speaker and presenter on special issues related to partners of “sexual addicts”. She is a retired mental health counselor, and a Board Certified Coach (BCC). She was the founding President of the Association for Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists – an organization that provides training and certification of Clinical Partner Specialists and Partner Trauma Coaches. Barbara also consults with other professionals and provides training for those who want to help partners heal. She has trained professionals and faith providers from across the United States, Canada, New Zealand, the United Kingdom, Singapore, and other locations around the world. She has also participated in and led events for partners who are seeking healing and support.


Barbara is co-author of Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (2009; 2021), which has dramatically affected change in the lives of those who are victims and the professionals who are trained to serve them. She is a pioneer in the field and calls herself the “Grandmother” of those who have followed behind her to help partners heal.

Cat Etherington
Grief and Mourning: How Not to Get Stuck

Cat Etherington is the Director of Recovery for Naked Truth Project, an international charity opening eyes and freeing lives from the damaging impacts of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviours. Cat is a certified professional life coach and integrative counsellor, working with individuals and couples impacted by problematic sexual behaviour and betrayal. Cat was the first ever European practitioner to be certified by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) and now serves on their Board of Directors and delivers their clinical training. With personal and professional experience in both addiction and betrayal, Cat has unique insight into the journey of recovery and healing

Dan Drake
Therapeutic Separations: How to Build Individual and Relational Safety Through Healthy Distance

Dan Drake is a licensed clinician, an APSATS-approved supervisor as well as a CSAT Supervisor. He has co-authored several books, including Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth after Sexual Betrayal and Letters from a Sex Addict: My Life Exposed. Dan is also EMDR trained, and he is the Founder and Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group in Studio City, California. In addition to his clinical background, he has spoken domestically and internationally.


In his passion to help sex addicts, their partners, and families restore relational, mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual wholeness to their lives, Dan strives to provide a safe environment where his clients can grow and heal.

Debbie Laaser
The Truth, the Whole Truth, and Nothing but the Truth: Full Disclosure for Couples Navigating Relational Betrayal

Debbie Laaser is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and was involved in recovery with her husband, Mark for over thirty years. She and her husband Mark co-founded Faithful & True, a Christian counseling center treating men struggling with sexual addiction and their spouses. She has facilitated therapy groups, individual counseling, and intensives for betrayed wives for over 20 years.


Debbie authored From Trauma to Transformation, Shattered Vows, and co-authored Seven Desires and A Toolkit for Growth with Mark. She also published research, “Posttraumatic Growth in Relationally Betrayed Women”, available on their website, faithfulandtrue.com. Since Mark’s death in 2019, Debbie continues to counsel and direct the growth of Faithful & True in the Minneapolis area.

Drew Boa
Healing the Inner Child - For Men

Drew Boa is the founder of HusbandMaterial.com, where he helps men outgrow porn. Drew is the author of Redeemed Sexuality and host of Husband Material with Drew Boa (top 1% ranked podcast). As a Certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional, Unwanted Guide, and Inner Child Recovery Specialist, Drew has extensive experience healing all kinds of sexual brokenness.


Drew lives in Colorado Springs, Colorado, where you would find him with his wife and 3 kids...or running on a trail.

Dr. Eddie Capparucci
Managing Anxiety Helps Heal This Mess

Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a licensed professional counselor certified in treating Problematic Sexual Behaviors. Eddie has worked with professional athletes and television personalities among his many clients. He is the creator of the Inner Child Model™ for treating Problematic Sexual Behaviors, a unique approach that focuses on identifying unresolved childhood pain points and teaching individuals how to process emotional distress in healthy ways. His trauma treatment method has been endorsed by many leaders in this field. He sits on the board of Christian Sex Addiction Specialists International (C-SASI), an organization committed to training and certifying clinicians, pastors, coaches, lay leaders, group facilitators and others to work with sex addicts, partners, and their families.


Eddie is the host of the podcast, Getting to the Other Side, which helps couples navigate the road of betrayal trauma and healing. He is the author of several books, including Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction and Why Men Struggle to Love: Overcoming Relational Blind Spots. His two latest books are Going Deeper for Women: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Porn Addiction and Understanding Your Inner Child and Overcoming Addiction.

Elisabeth Kristof
Betrayal and Nervous System Health

Elisabeth Kristof, MA, is an expert in nervous system health for trauma resolution and behavior change. She is the founder of Brain-Based Wellness, an online platform that trains the nervous system and body to resolve old patterns, improve performance and increase well-being. She is co-host of the Trauma Rewired podcast that explores the neurology of complex trauma.


Elisabeth is a certified applied neurology and somatic practitioner who has been in the wellness industry since 2007. She works with entrepreneurs, athletes, leaders and creatives to improve resilience, manage stress and regulate emotions through intentional, science-based brain training. Her research and work with hundreds of clients taught her that healing and change must occur in both the body and the mind, that each body, mind, and nervous system is unique, and most importantly, that with the right tools, we are all capable of healing.


She is also the founder of Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Certification, an ICF-accredited course that teaches leading-edge, somatic coaching that creates client transformation from the body to the brain.

Geoff Steurer
What Do I Do With All This Pain?

Geoff Steurer is a licensed marriage and family therapist, podcaster, author, and coach who has helped hundreds of couples heal from the impact of sexual betrayal over the past 25 years. He and his wife, Jody, host of the podcast, "From Crisis to Connection" and he's the co-author of Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity. Geoff has produced workbooks, trainings, and programs to help men and women heal themselves and their relationships in the aftermath of addiction, abuse, and betrayal.


Geoff has been married for 27 years to his wife, Jody, and they are the parents of four children.

Dr. Jake Porter
Returning to You: Rediscovering the True Self After Betrayal

Dr. Jake Porter is a Board Certified Counselor, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Certified Multiple Addiction Therapist, APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, and the Founder of Daring Ventures Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting. He is also the creator of Couple–Centered Recovery®, a model for overcoming attachment wounds in couples experiencing the trauma of betrayal. Dr. Porter has undergone extensive training in evidence–based treatments for couples who have suffered attachment injuries. He works with couples from around the world who have travelled to Houston for treatment of severe attachment injuries and relational trauma. Believing in the inherent worth of every person, Dr. Porter utilizes insights from developmental psychology, interpersonal neurobiology, and spirituality to help his clients experience greater healing and freedom in their lives.


Dr. Porter is an Assistant Professor of Counseling at Kairos University's Houston Graduate School of Theology, where he also is Lead Professor of the Doctor of Professional Counseling Program.


Dr. Porter lives in Houston with his wife, Kristen, and daughters, Magnolia Jane and Lottie Jo.

Dr. Janice Caudill
What Do You Get When You Mix Sex Addition and Intimacy Anorexia? Married and Alone: A Sexually Betrayed, Intimacy Deprived Partner

Dr. Janice Caudill is a psychologist, licensed through PSYPACT for tele-therapy in 40 states. She is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist-Supervisor, Certified Clinical Partner Specialist-Supervisor, Certified Partner Trauma Therapist–Supervisor, and certified Intimacy Anorexia Therapist. She is one of the founding members of the APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists) and participated in the development of a trauma model for partner betrayal.


Janice is the founder of Intensive Recovery Healing, a center that specializes in customized intensives for individuals and couples recovering from sex addiction, betrayal trauma, or other life traumas. Janice is the author and co-author of author of his and hers companion workbooks for helping couples navigate a therapeutic disclosure of sexual betrayal - Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal – 3 Volume Series as well as Full Disclosure: Sharing the Truth After Sexual Betrayal.

Jenn Howie
Reclaiming Body Image After Betrayal

Jennifer Howie is a Betrayal Recovery Coach and the host of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast. As a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional, and Licensed Massage Therapist with a focus on healing trauma in the body, she offers over a decade of experience with helping individuals and couples recover from unwanted behavior, engage in healthy conflict resolution and renew their relationships. She is passionate about holistic healing through a mind-body approach and helping people transform their lives and realize their full potential.


In addition Jennifer is a speaker, emcee and writer who can be found on various platforms dealing with betrayal trauma. She deeply connects with women who have been through betrayal, as she has an intimate knowledge of how life changing betrayal can be. For this reason, she has become a gifted encourager for this population and has a unique quality to walk alongside those who are walking through some of their darkest moments, guiding them through the pain and confusion, and helping them to rise again.

Jenna Riemersma
Move Toward with Jenna Riemersma

Jenna Riemersma is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. She is teaching faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) and core faculty for Addo Recovery. She holds a master’s degree in Public Policy from Harvard University and a master’s degree in Professional Counseling from Richmont Graduate University.

Jenna is a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Level III Internal Family Systems Therapist, an EMDR therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor (CSAT-S), Certified Multiple Addiction Therapist Supervisor (CMAT-S), and a National Certified Counselor (NCC).


Jenna is a best-selling author and popular speaker on topics including faith, mental health and authentic living. Jenna’s book, Altogether You, was a #1 best-selling new release on Amazon.


Jenna’s previous career was in the field of public policy, where she served in various legislative capacities on Capitol Hill in Washington, D.C. She has been married for twenty-six years, is the proud mom of two young adults, an animal lover, and yoga enthusiast.

Joshua Broome
Is Porn Really That Bad: The Truth From a Former Porn Star


Joshua Broome was an award-winning porn star who left the industry, transformed his life, and is now helping others find freedom from pornography.

Julianne Cusick
Devastated but not Destroyed

Julianne Cusick is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified EMDR Therapist (Maiberger Institute) and an AANE Certified Neurodiverse Couples Coach, giving her a unique understanding of how unresolved trauma and neurodiversity can impact a marriage.


Julianne has over 20 years of experience helping women, men and couples understand and overcome the wounds of sexual betrayal, attachment trauma, and other relational trauma. She embodies hope arising from her own story of healing and redemption. She can be found on the Restoring the Soul podcast.


Julianne thrives on personal and professional growth and development and enjoys all things restorative. She loves reading, gardening, sunshine, and sharing a good meal with family and friends.

KayLee Dunn
From Hurt to Heroine: Heal From Betrayal With NeuroIntuitive Boundaries

KayLee Dunn is a Betrayal Navigation Coach, speaker, and instructor. She has been a licensed clinical social worker specialized in betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and PTSD for over a decade.

She knows how painful it is to deal with the aftermath of betrayal as 16 years ago, she experienced it too.


After experiencing betrayal and healing from it, she is now happily married to her best friend. They have five children and two dogs. In her free time, KayLee enjoys watercolor painting, writing creative fiction, traveling, and playing with her family in nature.

Dr. Kenneth M. Adams
When He is Married to Mom: How to Navigate the Confusion when He is Both Sex Addict and Enmeshed with His Mother

Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D., CSAT-S, is a licensed psychologist since 1981, faculty member with the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) and the clinical director and founder of Kenneth M. Adams and Associates in suburban Detroit and the popular OvercomingEnmeshment workshops.


Dr. Adams is a national lecturer, workshop leader, and consultant in the areas of child abuse, dysfunctional family systems, and sex addiction. He is the author of numerous peer-reviewed papers, book chapters, and Silently Seduced, When He’s Married to Mom, and A Light in the Dark as well as co-editor of Clinical Management of Sex Addiction-Revised. He was the co-recipient of the 2001 “Readers Choice Award” for his paper on Shame Reduction and Affect Regulation. In 2011, Dr. Adams received the “Carnes Award” for “outstanding work in the field of sexual addiction and compulsivity and in 2016 received the “Lifetime Achievement Award” from IITAP for his work with trauma and addiction.


Dr. Adams is a certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a CSAT supervisor, and CSAT training facilitator as well as an Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) practitioner.

Melanie Johnson
Financial Empowerment: Navigating the Monetary Maze of Betrayal and Divorce

Melanie Johnson is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA®), owner of Divorce Financial Solutions, and the National Director for Second Saturday, which is the oldest non-profit organization dedicated to providing financial education to women in their quest for financial independence. She has specialized expertise in working with widowed, divorced, and retirement-focused individuals.


Melanie has authored articles for legal, business, and financial trade journals and has been quoted about financial planning and post-divorce in financial issues in magazines and newspapers. Melanie frequently serves as a guest lecturer on investment, money management, and divorce-related topics to organizations, radio, TV, and podcasts.


Marsha Means
Why His Empathy is a Key to Healing

Marsha Means, MA, founder and director of A Circle of Joy Ministries, is trained as a Marriage and Family Therapist and writes and speaks on the topic of betrayal trauma, sex addiction, and emotional and intimacy anorexia and how to overcome them and heal.


She works with betrayed partners; men wanting to overcome emotional intimacy once sobriety is maintained; and with couples seeking to rebuild on a healthy foundation. Her work is based on both her personal and professional experience.


Together with co-author, Barb Steffens, PhD, she wrote, Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal, which is in its 6th printing. In addition, she continues to update her workbook, From Betrayal Trauma to Healing & Joy for partners, and has several other books in print. She is currently writing a workbook for men wanting to grow in the area of emotional intimacy.

Melody Lovvorn
Setting New Goals & Dreams: Fostering a Positive Outlook Beyond Trauma

Melody is the founder of the non-profit organization Togetherness Project. She is a Relationship, Trauma-Informed Recovery, Mental Health & Enneagram Coach. Hosting the podcast "Melody & Friends," she's a story enthusiast who has dedicated nearly two decades to guiding and coaching women through the aftermath of betrayal and destructive relationships. Melody has created several transformative courses that draw from both her professional expertise and personal journey, offering individuals tools to recover, rebuild, and rewrite their stories.


Melody is the author of Signals of Love: Guiding You Toward Successful Relationships Using the Traffic Light Approach which aims to to empower young adults by providing solutions for navigating relationships.


Michael John Cusick
From Barriers To Bridges: Understanding Your Brokenness

Michael is a Licensed Professional Counselor and the co-founder and CEO of Restoring the Soul, an intensive counseling center where couples and individuals can get unstuck in as little as two weeks.


Michael is the host of the popular Restoring the Soul podcast with listeners in over 81 countries and totaling over 2 million downloads. He is also the author of two books: Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle and Somebody's Daughter.


Michael lives with his wife Julianne in the foothills of Colorado where he enjoys the Rocky Mountains and has two grown children.

Michelle Mays
Healing the Sexual Injury at the Heart of Betrayal

Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. Michelle has created The Braving Hope™ Treatment Model to address the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing.


Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in both Virginia and Washington DC, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She was trained by Pia Mellody in the Post Induction Therapy model for treating developmental trauma and is currently completing her PhD in Clinical Sexology and certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.


Monifa Ellis-Addie
The Narcissist Sex Addict and You

Monifa Ellis-Addie is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice and with Banyan Therapy Group specializing in sex addiction, partner betrayal trauma, and how narcissism relates to sexual addiction. She is also co-owner and founder of PEACE Wellness Collective, a counseling center focused on changing the stigma around therapy for people of color. Monifa has a passion for spreading knowledge and decreasing shame on sexual issues.


Monifa is a professor at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology where she has taught Sexual Issues in Marriage and Family Therapy for the past three years.

Nathaniel Gustafson
It Might Be Right But Is It Right Right Now? Getting Ahead of the Healing Process
Knowing His "Why" For Her Safety

Nathaniel is a Licensed Professional Counselor and coach with specialized training in Emotionally Focused Therapy and EMDR. He is the founder of TenderHearted Men, a counseling and coaching practice in Colorado. He specializes in helping couples heal from the wounds of sexual integrity issues.


Nathaniel has a unique ability of working with a couple, focusing on the husband, and keeping the wife safe in the process. He helps men engage emotions to develop self-awareness and relational intimacy. Nathaniel offers compassion mixed with challenge, holding the needs of the individual and the couple simultaneously.


Dr. Rob Weiss LCSW, CSAT
All About Prodependence: Beyond the Shame of Codependency

Robert Weiss PhD, LCSW CSAT is Chief Clinical Officer of Seeking Integrity LLC, clinical programs providing online education and residential treatment for sex, porn, and substance/sex-addicted men and their families. A psychotherapist and addiction specialist, he has created six intimacy and addiction treatment programs in the US, Southeast Asia and the US military.


Dr Weiss has been a subject-matter expert for major media outlets: CNN, NPR, and The New York Times, among others. He is the author of eleven books, including Prodependence, Sex Addiction 101, and Out of the Doghouse. Psychology Today blog, “Love and Sex in the Digital Age,” has had over 21 million readers, while his podcast, “Sex, Love, & Addiction,” has generated over 1.3 million downloads since its inception.

Rick Reynolds LCSW
President and Founder, Affair Recovery
Healing Intrusive Memories

As one of America’s foremost authorities helping individuals and couples struggling with affairs and compulsive sexual behaviors, Rick brings over 30 years of experience and insight to his role as president and founder of Affair Recovery. He has authored numerous recovery guides, curricula and papers detailing reasons why people cheat, how couples can overcome the pain, heartache and distrust, and ways to move forward both individually and as a couple. Rick utilizes his personal recovery experience, gift of humility and non-judgmental nature to help restore lives impacted by infidelity.

Sarah Morales
Finding Your Way Back to You: The Role Gaslighting Plays in Loss of Self

Sarah Morales is the owner and creator of Deconstructing Gaslighting™ and is widely recognized as an expert and thought leader on the topic of gaslighting. She helps raise public awareness around gaslighting through her many public platforms and creates programs that help empower victims of gaslighting.


Sarah currently sits on the board of APSATS (the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists), consults & contracts with numerous helping professionals, and is frequently invited as a guest speaker at national conferences and on podcasts.


​Her passion for empowering others to transform their lives fuels her work with her clients and pushes her to continue developing new programs on the cutting edge of helping others grow to know, trust, and love themselves more than they knew was possible.

Stacey Smith (Sadler)
When God Lets you Down: Healing from Spiritual Trauma

Stacey Smith is a Licensed Professional Counselor, EMDR Certified Therapist & Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Candidate. She is Chief Clinical Officer for Daring Ventures Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting, LLC. Trainer for The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) Multi-Dimensional Partner Trauma Model. In this 4-Day training she teaches coaches and clinicians how to ethically treat partners of sex addicts who are suffering from betrayal trauma.


She has served for many years as a group facilitator for New Life Ministries at their workshops, is the keynote speaker for the Restore Workshop, and serves on the board for New Life. She has recently co-authored Understanding and Loving Your Child as a Single Parent.


Stephen Cabler
Polygraphs 101

Stephen Cabler is a Senior Polygraph Examiner and the owner of Cabler Polygraph in Houston, Texas. He is a member of the American Polygraph Association and the Texas Association of Polygraph Examiners.


Stephen has conducted thousands of sexual addiction polygraphs working with hundreds of therapists from all across the United States as part of their therapeutic disclosure process and is considered to be the leading expert in polygraphs in the sexual addiction community.

Wendell Moss
The Trauma of Betrayal

Wendell is a licensed mental health counselor. He is the founder of Wendell Moss MA Counseling. He is one of the founders of the Allender Center and serves as part of their core teaching staff. He is also an instructor at the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology.


Wendell is fiercely committed to engaging the impact of sexual abuse and trauma, including racial trauma. He courageously and compassionately steps into the most wounded places, especially the places where people are bound by relational heartache, addictions, shame, and contempt. Although he is privileged and delighted to work with both men and women, Wendell loves to create contexts of healing for men, especially African-American men.


This is exciting stuff! So when are these presentations live?